Unit12
HappioughTimesSonjaLyubomirsky,authorofTheHoiness:AStificApproachtoGettingtheLifeYouWanthasresearchedthesceofhappinessforyears。Herearehertipstohelpyoucopewithabadey,andincreaseyourburstsofhappihroughouttheday。
“Youdalot(左思右想),”saysLyubomirsky。“Butthatjustmakesyoufeeleveic,moreoutoftrol,asyourselfesteem。Yourrelationshipswillsufferandyourjobperformancewillsuffer。”Togetridofpessimism,Oeffectiveewhenthingsaredifficultistoadoptapositivethinkingstrategy。
“WhatIlearnfromthis?Timesaretough,I’vebeenfurloughed(休假)atwork,butIdmoretimewiththekids,adoptanewhobby,orlearofskills。”
haneverwehertosurvive。Lyubomirskyfoundthatdoinggoodthingsforfriends,family,ersmakeyouhappier。Thinkofpractical,everydaygesturesthatmakesomeolebiteasier。Forexample,Lyubomirskysays,“Maybenowmanyofus’taffordtotakeacabtotheairport,siveafriendaride。”
Youdon’totellyouthatrelatioicaltohappibeingthebread-winnerabeiofulfillyourkid'sneedsweighdownhardonyourfamilylife。Butthetrickistostopfeelingguiltyandfourturingyourlovedones。“Isychologyceertwastalkingabouttheeffectsofthiseiliesandhowparents’taffordtobuytheirkidsluxuriesliketoysanymore,”saysLyubomirsky。“Butwhattheydon'trealizeisthatkidsdooys—whattheycareaboutisparentsbeinggrumpy(性情乖戾的)onthem。”
“Ifyoufindahappypersonyouwillfi,”saysLyubomirsky。“Happypeopleallhavegoalstheyityourselftoaproject—whetheritisabusinessyouwanttostartoradatolearn。Butit’salsoimportaobeflexibleiimes。Doratedifcesarestoppingyoufrommeetingyoals。Adoptandge!“Ifyourspousehaslosttheirjobyoumighthavetogeyoal,”saysLyubomirsky。“hthavetolearnawholenewskillforanewjob。”
&imesaretough,it’seasytogetskipyularworkoutsinfroVaingabagofchips。Yis“Ihavemoreimportantthingstoworryabhtnowthanlookinggood。”Butallpartofyourdaytotakecareaboutyourbody。Itwillgoalongwayinboostingyourhappiness。“Evenifyou'taffotothegym,”
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1。copewith对付……,妥善处理Sheknowshowtocopelicatedsituation。
她知道如何应付复杂的情形。
2。burst1)vi。爆炸,破裂;突然打开2)n。爆发;突发1)Sheburstintosong。
她突然唱起歌来。
2)Aburstofpassionsurprisedher。
突然的感情爆发使她惊诧。
&icadj。悲观的,厌世的;悲观主义的Thereissiderablepessimismaboutjobopportunity。
人们对就业机会相当悲观。
4。outoftrol失去控制
Theplaofdcrashed。
飞机失去控制坠毁了。
5。positiveadj。积极的;肯定的IampositivethatIsawhim。
我敢肯定我见过他。
6。toughadj。坚韧的
&oughcharacter。
他有一个坚韧的性格。
&ure1)n。手势,姿势2)vt。&vi。做手势1)Hemadearudegesturewithhisfingers。
他用手指做了一个不礼貌的手势。
2)Theesturedvigorously>
这位演讲者讲话时用力地做手势。